LIFE & DEATH TW25: We're all playing a game where nobody gets out alive! Related to my decades of hospice volunteer work, it's a different way of saying the hospice slogan of "Dying is what happens on the last day, all the other days are about living". I like this saying and say it quite often.
WORDS TO LIVE BY TW24: One is None - Two is One Okay, this is a Marine Corp. saying that I recently heard for the first time and misinterpreted what it meant. I have given it a new interpretation, thus making it mine, and not the Corp. I interpret its meaning in the context of the relationship to my wife: without her, I am nothing, thus "One is None" - together, we are as one, one soul, one entity, thus "Two is One"; Frankly, as I shared this with Sue, it brought a tear to my eye. It is now one of "our" sayings; too mushy? Not for us!
SO TRUE TW23: I love when one of my friends meets another one of my friends and they become friends. This happens to me all the time. In fact, it often happens that when this occurs, they become better friends with each other than with me! But I am happy about that too. I am lucky to have a handful of good friends, and in a sense, when a new friendship is created, I get some sort of "karma credit" for creating the resulting friendship. This saying inspired by Mark Mac, ESHS Class of '77 - may he RIP.
GIVING THANKS TW22: If you know where you are going to SLEEP tonight, and you know where your next MEAL is coming from, then you should be thankful. Many people in this country do not have a warm, dry, safe, lockable place to sleep tonight - but you do. Many people are hungry or eat high calorie but low value food - think McDonalds Double Cheeseburger for a dollar - and don't know where their next meal will be coming from - but you do. Try going without food or lodging for a few days, and see what many of our homeless have to deal with, and you will be grateful for what you have.
WORDS TO LIVE BY TW21: When in doubt, do the right thing. Strangely, I have never heard this uttered by anyone else, so I am claiming this one for myself! This saying applies to situations where we face a dilemma about what to do. When you find yourself uncertain about what to do, just ask yourself "what is the right thing to do?". The vast majority of the time, we actually know what the right thing to do would be, but often we are too scared or too lazy to do "the right thing". Solution: don't think about it, just do it - do the right thing - I think that was also the name of a favorite Spike Lee movie of the same name.
WITTY SAYING TW20: Well, we still haven't done anything stupid yet today. Usually uttered near the end of one of our many adventure days, when there is an opportunity to: 1. do something smart and avoid an obstacle or turn around, or 2. do something stupid and plunge into the abyss. Nothing stupid yet today? Okay then - plunge into the abyss it is!.
Above: Death Valley National Park, California. Case in Point. We were doing a long dayhike, when the group abandoned us just as it got steep, long, and tough. Instead of taking the easy way, we cliffed out, with a big fat dog in tow. I happened to get this photo. It ended up being less dangerous than originally thought, but still stupid. No rope, no nothing. Probably doesn't look as dangerous as it was, as the rock was very loose and unstable. Note that I went first (and took the photo). Tracy, Andrew and Tracey's pooch.
WORDS TO LIVE BY TW19: A key to marriage is to put the needs of your spouse ahead of your own needs, and vice versa. I'm not sure that everyone can do this. It takes a great amount of love for one person to not take advantage of the other.
SO TRUE TW18: Nobody cares about what you think but your Mother and God. Okay, I adapted this saying from the Dave Ramsey radio show. It sounds very negative, but for me it is very positive. It helps me to remain humble and true to my origins. Thankfully, my wife also cares what I think, but that's pretty much where it ends. I appreciate what I have, and I am grateful to have met, known, and spent time with some pretty amazing people. Humbleness complete! This saying caused me to consider why I continue to write this blog when nobody reads it? Answer: it consolidates and focuses my thoughts, ideas, and feelings, and I believe that it makes me a better writer. Someday, I hope to actually publish some of my writings, and this practice of the writing craft should help me in cranking out some of my research.
MOVIE FITS REALITY TW17: I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who enjoys our trips under the blanket of leadership that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it! I would rather you just said "thank you", and went on your way. Otherwise, I suggest you organize and lead a trip yourself. Either way, I don't give a damn what you think of my trips. Okay, I adapted this quote from the movie "A Few Good Men" starring Jack Nicholson, Tom Cruise and Kevin Bacon - a great movie with great lines. Jack's actual lines in the movie where he plays Col. Jessep: "I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it. I would rather you just said thank you, and went on your way, Otherwise, I suggest you pick up a weapon, and stand a post. Either way, I don't give a damn what you think you are entitled to." My quote was in response to my frustration over someone who has gone on numerous trips of ours, enjoys them immensely, then bags on me personally for the manner in which we organize and lead them.
GOOD TIMES TW16: If it weren't for the Bad Times, we wouldn't recognize the Good Times I really believe this is true. Life is a cycle, and we all experience good and bad times - hopefully more good than bad! But if it were good all the time, I believe that we wouldn't truly appreciate it. Sometimes, I just go to bed, hoping for this bad day to end, knowing that a good day is coming. Amen.
PERFECTION TW15: Life's Not Perfect - Get Used to It! There's a burning inner desire in us humans that strives for perfection in life. Sadly, we will never achieve that perfection because - SURPRISE! - we're only human! We are all flawed, just in different ways. Sometimes, you just have to let go of that desire for perfection and instead honor ourselves as the flawed human beings that we are, and just enjoy life!
SOLVING THE WORLD'S PROBLEMS TW14: Every World Problem is reduced by having less people on Planet Earth Growing population on our planet is a huge problem that gets little attention in the media. This concept was popular in the 1970's, but has largely been silent since then - I don't know why. When I discuss this with ardent environmentalists, they strangely object to this apparent fact.
SOLVING THE WORLD'S PROBLEMS TW13: In our affluent society, we should be able to shelter and feed everyone, regardless of circumstance. Yes - this is a simplistic statement, but that is the nature of "sayings". No - Not luxury accommodations - Not gourmet food. But a roof that doesn't leak, a warm bed in a safe and secure building, and sufficient calories a day of affordable, healthy, simply, inexpensive food. There are solutions to these problems that are affordable, but that the public is not willing to accept. Witness the refusal of neighborhoods to allow groups like the People's Kitchen to dispense food to those who need it.
Above (click to enlarge): Mountain Biking world class single track trails at Montana de Oro State Park with my buddy Michael.
GET FIT - STAY FIT (TW12): Its not how HARD you work out, its how OFTEN! Its more important to try and get in some exercise every single day, rather than kill yourself on the rare occasions when you can actually find time to get a workout in. The reality is that if you find time for regular exercise, no matter how limited the workout, your fitness level will continue to improve, allowing you to naturally and organically increase your strength and endurance. Keep in mind that with a goal of trying to work out EVERY DAY, you are more likely to get in 4 or 5 workouts a week, which is an excellent frequency, since it is also important to get in a few rest days every week.
BUCKET LIST TW11: When you are in your 20's, 30's, or 40's, you can always convince yourself that there will always be more time to do the things you have dreamed of doing. When you hit your 50's, you can no longer kid yourself. If there are things you dream to do, you better get on with doing them! Yes, its long-winded. I've begun to say this alot, and though a bit of a mouthful, it does represent our current thoughts - time to be getting on with things - retirement be d*mned!.
SO SORRY TW7: I didn't do it. And if I did do it, I didn't mean it. If I did meant it, I didn't really mean it! Yes, I utter this saying, mostly when I've been drinking, I suppose. Its supposed to silly. A response to "who did this?". We still fear this question from our childhood, a time period when we would never get away with this response - at least for long. I guess that's what makes this saying funny - at least to me!.
LIVING IN YOUR HEAD TW6: Just decide to be happy. Sometimes, life just weighs you down. Whether for a good reason, or no reasons, you are just sad and depressed. In those situations, I have found that there is only one thing for me to do - just decide to ignore all that baggage and just be happy - and why not? You don't live forever, and happiness is fleeting, and this technique often works for me. You should give it a try.
POLITICS TW4: If it makes sense, our leaders will NEVER do it. Do I really need to explain this one? Okay, for the slow-on-the-uptake amongst us: Anytime we hear of a GREAT NEW IDEA that would require establishment support or sponsorship or outright ownership, we know that it will NEVER happen. Why? Because our public leaders are invested in the status quo. That includes all their pay, perks and pension payouts, which are threatened by any NEW AND IMPROVED idea. The best solutions come from the people, who are willing to try and do practically anything, especially if they think they can make a buck doing it!
GO FOR IT TW3: Inspiration is where you find it. We never know where, when or how we will find something that inspires us; it doesn't have to be something that is classically motivational, but often is something unexpected; example: some of my favorite quotes, like those from Mark Twain, inspire me to thoughtful or brash action, depending on the quote!